Relationships are scary. They change us; sometimes for good
and sometimes not. Slowly they take over everything; our existence, our way of
looking at the world, and even our own identity. From being strong and
independent, we slowly transform into a needy, insecure human beings. From
being confident and making our own plans, we look for assistance and
acceptance. We try to build a “Happy Bubble” for ourselves where happiness
depends on the other person and not us. We suffocate ourselves with the
constant efforts of doing things right, of mending our ways to fit in the Bubble.
We start to live in the constant fear that the Bubble pops one day and in turn
blame ourselves for every simple thing that could go wrong. We sit down thinking for hours about what we
have said and what we could have said instead. We put so much effort in it that
we stop looking beyond it. All the other things which were once a priority have
now taken a backstage. We stop thinking about career, we stop making new
friends, we stop even being curious. We transform slowly into completely
different personalities sometimes.
Are we mentally prepared for the “What-if”s? 10 years down
the line will we be able to recognize ourselves? Will we like the changed us?
Will we accept us or hate us for our mistakes? Will we learn from our mistakes or continue
doing the same?
Why were the fairy tales only about the lucky few who lived happily
ever after?
